Simply Philile

So some of the feedback on one of my previous articles came from a man who asked that I inspect the flip side of the ‘Beijing’ notion of 50/50 gender equity. Damsels in Distress published in the Swazi News on November 14, 2015 focused on calling out the men who take advantage of the so-called independent woman, the dead-beat baby daddys and husbands who short-change women by neglecting their responsibilities. That article was also a call to action; encouraging women who find themselves tied to such men to lose the shackles, as my observation is that some of us women get so caught up in keeping up with the Jones’ that we cover up for these undeserving losers and subsequently get ourselves into deeper trouble – debt and depression - because women will always hustle to keep their household in order.  But as with everything else, there is a flip side as rightly pointed out by the reader and I have also raised this in other platforms before. We, the women of today are at times e...

So last week Olympian Caster Semenya wedded her long time steady Bae Violet and all the lovers of hate crimes went rabid? Skawara Caster; the squad and I are here for you like we are there for each other every chance we get-together like kaDezember. So, December mornings at kaLanga – the rural place I call my home – are like Ezulwini Valley afternoons to a tourist – sundowners with a slice of simple but insightful conversation with locals. So that morning, the boys and I, like a well-oiled machine, we were rolling in banter. Mazwe had the podium. Mazwe is a mineworker in South Africa’s North West province. He was sharing memories of his first few days in SA; the truck loads of money he suddenly had at his disposal, the never-ending entertainment which he could surprisingly afford… Just like the night he spent buying drinks by the dozen for this gorgeous woman he had met at the pub that night. His new-found mineworker friends were even jealous of him. They kept asking; ‘What d...