Simply Philile

E.X.A.C.T.L.Y!!! That reaction you just had reading this headline is the reason why gender parity ‘advocacy’ cries like “Men are trash” are a problem. “Men are trash” has been trending on my Facebook timeline for a while now and more intensely over the past week or two.  I’ve tried hard to avoid being part of the debate in past months because of how quickly it tends to derail to accusations and even profanities and how you haven’t dotted your i and omitted a full stop in a sentence. But I’ve always felt a sense of duty to give my contribution towards shaping our societies, so I’ll address a few issues raised by this feminist rallying call. Firstly, before I’m accused of pissing in the face of the ‘Woke’ and on the feminist agenda, let me state it outright that this is not an article aimed at telling feminists, who are mostly women, what to say and feel about what they have identified as their struggles or even how to react to vignettes of their experiences with the t...

By Vumile Mabusela The passing of Kwaito music icon Mandoza has brought to the fore many great life lessons as narrated in this column last week- agreed.  But as we all know, we constantly exist within two extreme worlds; for every positive there’s a counter that must be explored, that’s just how nature continues to work. And so as nature would have it, the death of the man Mandoza raised the issue of the opposite sex - a woman’s role in a romantic relationship. Reacting to Mandoza’s funeral, I found that many people, especially on social media, were hailing praise at Mpho, the late legend’s wife, for her perseverance and sticking it out to the bitter end.  Phrases like ‘Umfazi wamampela’ (real wife/woman) and ‘We need more women like her’, were making rounds and even getting retweeted and liked a trillion times over by both men and women.  This had me thinking; ‘Is a woman’s strength defined by how much hubby-manufactured bile she can ...