Grassroots: the origins of good leadership
Firstly, congratulations to EFF leader Julius Malema for his
BA degree graduation.
For me, it’s not even about the weight or meaning of the
academic qualification but more about what this young man and his infant
organization sell; they sell confidence and fearlessness in our life time and
Malema has demonstrated exactly this with his university graduation this week.
It’s key to note the confidence and fearlessness with the
same importance as the phrase IN OUR LIFETIME because Malema’s story of a poor
boy from the grassroots level of society, raised by a single [grand]mother, rising
to become a powerhouse, is a story we have heard before but always remarkable, and
to witness it IN OUR LIFETIME makes many people who are the target audience of
the EFF buy into their campaign for economic freedom IN OUR LIFETIME.
Malema’s
is also a story of a young man who faced many hurdles in the sometimes deadly
game of politics but HE CHOSE not to be distracted or defined by the negatives
around him and instead focused on his purpose – his leadership abilities and
responsibilities.
So, Malema takes us straight to it; module two of [Personal]
Leadership 101. Still the basics that could
save us a lot of future troubles if we started today to mold them into a
foundation for our day-to-day lives a.k.a grassroots leadership; because nothing grows to have an impact on
others without having its feet on the ground, without the most basic level of organization
which for any child is a family.
In a few weeks I’ll be spending a whole weekend with my
step-daughter for the first time. Most women have often described such first
encounters with step-children as daunting.
My only definition of ‘daunting’
is a sudden early morning one-on-one encounter with a hen that’s walking her
week old chicks on the small path leading to the desperately needed pit latrine, so I’m feeling pretty confident if not excited about our weekend because I trust
my leadership/parenting skills in this regard.
I doubt I can say the same for many of my peers. This is why
I think the step-parenting module of leadership should still be considered for
future generations.
If someone could foresee way back before we were born, in
1973, that as a Swazi people, a way of governing ourselves via multiparty
governance was not going to suit us, then someone ought to also have predicted
that school lessons on step-parenting were necessary for us.
The family structure has not been the same for many years
now and for a myriad of reasons. There are more women raising children without
their fathers because of;
- · break-ups including hostile separations like divorce,
- · death of the father due to low life expectancy presented by chronic diseases, violence and car and workplace accidents,
- · women choosing to have children with men who are already monogamously married and
- · women simply choosing to give birth or adopt babies solo.
Whatever the reason(s) for us raising our children without
their biological fathers, I think someone with a vision should have foreseen
that starting, at least, from people of my generation – there was a great need
for formal classroom type structured lessons in step-parenting.
Seriously, look
around, how many of your friends and relatives are or on the path to being step
fathers or step-mothers?
If we’d formalized these lessons in step-parenting, we
probably wouldn’t have problems of women denying the fathers of their children
access to their offspring for whatever rubbish reasons they’ve convinced
themselves to be valid; because by the time one is grown enough to make a baby,
their earlier school lessons in step-parenting would be a reminder that
everything that happens around the child should happen only in the best interest
and welfare of the child.
Ladies, you don’t have to like the new woman in your ex’s
life or even your ex for that matter, but you have to like your child and
country enough to make decisions with their future in mind.
Same applies with
the grandparents [and step-parents] that are sometimes a barrier to fulfilling
the best interest of the child, if they are exposed to these lessons, they
would know to exercise leadership by the time their [grand] children are born. This,
my friends, is leadership in motion. So we didn’t get it right in the past but
we can still correct this.
Gentlemen, I’m as much a believer in leadership as I am in
family, so I will be the first to advocate for a law that makes it compulsory
for fathers to spend a certain amount of time with their children.
Of great
importance to understand is that ‘maintenance’ doesn’t build or strengthen the
soul of relationships. Even sex workers require your physical presence ahead of
the financial transaction, so please – stop treating our children inhumanely by
depriving them of your physicality.
It should seriously be mandatory for separated biological
parents to schedule time to co-parent their child[ren] together. The
step-parents from either side can tag along during some of these bonding moments
but the important thing is for the child to have both the parents at the same
place, engaging in the same activities with the aim to contribute to the
child’s development (this is crucial for a leader in the making).
Remember what
we say; it takes a village to raise a child [and not money], at least in the
African context so I encourage each one of us to ponder harder on our
grassroots leadership roles.
Human beings thrive on consistency and structure laced with
all the elements that make us human like feeling, touching etc in order to
develop healthy relationships with themselves and others, which in turn has
them living a meaningful and impactful life.
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